THE THING WITH WANTING
TO BECOME MORE SELF-SECURE
You are a shy person and you love to be stronger, yet there are people around you, especially at work and your husband who doesn’t want you become more self-secure. They individually hinder you through misuse of the English language. You feel constantly belittled and threatened as soon you manage to build yourself up.
Your co-worker wants you meek and might dream of getting rid of you. She is does this with other people as well and is racist. Your husband wants you quiet and that you ask him constantly what you want to do. He might feel threaten as he is not very bright and relays to someone who might not talk much!
So, what you do then?
You are already on your mission and you don’t want to give up. So, the answer is to chance your strategy. Why not become on a higher level secure, why not write a complaints to HR. There are people at work who do not want freedom and any extra efforts is watched and judged immediately. Here it is really better to start off with making some jokes, and scold her jokingly.
That same with your husband. You have to tell him that it is not an attack on him, just for you to rise your energy level. That for a chance he should keep calm and wait a while and then after a week or two ask him how he feels, if it really is such a threat.
That means keep going and tell the bully at work that you don’t want to threaten her, just want to rise your feelings of yourself. You could do that, but I think she will have something negative to tell you. It can be as well a grueling exercise to keep going with your task to rise your level. That means when ever she laments in her way, keep going. That in turn will boost your confidence. You will have days when you could cry, but keep going. Go outside of your comfort zone. Perhaps you want to run your own business, or start getting to step further up in your career or simply you love to be stronger.
You might do many task’s in your own comfortable way, but this way hinders you to do more. Start your hobby or your business. Instead of coming home and sleeping 2 hours, as you feel bad because of your co-worker. Why not set the watch and sleep just 1 hour or less and then start working on your new business? Instead of always asking your co-workers for help, start using your own brain and do some actions! Instead of asking how the computer program is running, why not read the manual? Instead of asking your boyfriend for money, why not work double hours? Instead of waiting for your coworkers to do thing, why not start the initiative yourself? Check your own level of skills and make it better, be your own judge instead of your coworkers!
That shows that there is a lot to do and you can as well incorporate Christian tools, by forgiving your assailants. You might have to forgive them on a daily basis, but with the time you will find out that you have far less hurting feelings, which will feel strange at the beginning. Getting through an attack without any feelings, shows you that you have spiritually developed and in turn will help you become more self-secure.
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